“Women don’t want to hear what you think. Women want to hear what they think – in a deeper voice.”

Bill Cosby

You don’t know what you have until it’s gone.

1. Designer: Alice+Olivia~ The parker scarf dress is a perfect dress for an ‘all you can eat’ dinner. You look sexy and elegant and still don’t have to worry about a full tummy.

2. Designer: 291 ~ The off shoulder dress would be a great outfit for a date. You only reveal your shoulder that will make him wonder.

3. Designer: The J. Peterman Company ~ The 1950s summer dress is something you can definitely wear for a Sunday brunch with your girlfriends. Brunch with style.

4. Designer: Susana Monaco ~ The string with flair dress is a outfit for any occasion. You can rock it to work, impress your date or show off at a party. Simple, black and unforgettable.

5. Designer: Marc by Marc Jacobs ~ This elegant summer dress a la pretty woman is something you can wear for lunch with a special someone and a after lunch shopping spree. The pretty woman effect is guaranteed.

6. Designer: Alberta Ferretti ~ The chain-embellished dress is definitely my favorite dress, and of course, the most expensive one. I would definitely save this dress for a very special occasion. A perfect city hall dress, if you know what I mean.

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If you want to revel in body confidence, turn off that self-critical tape that’s on a loop in your head.

● Quit cracking “jokes” about your body. “Even casual, half-kidding self-assessments get lodged in your brain as truth,” says Jeffers. Get into the habit of censoring yourself every time you’re about to utter a derogatory comment like “I’ll probably need a minus-A cup for my pancake chest.”

● Put yourself in the hot seat. “When negative beliefs creep into your mind, fight back and challenge each one like a trial lawyer,” says Mininni. If you think, I’ve gained so much weight, ask yourself What evidence is there? Have I had to throw out my old clothes and buy larger sizes? If the answer is no, you’ll have to face the harsh truth— you haven’t packed on the pounds.

● Listen to what those voices are really saying. Insecure thoughts can be deceiving. “They usually occur because you’re feeling powerless or scared in some aspect of your life,” says Los Angeles hypnotherapist Nancy Irwin, PsyD. So when that inner bitch taunts you, ask What’s really bothering me? Maybe you had a spat with your guy or you’re anxious about work. Identify the true source of your angst so you can ditch self-hate and tackle the real issue.

● Look at “I’m a hottie” evidence. Beth, 29*, blasts her body blues by flipping through a photo album she’s filled with the most flattering pictures of herself. “Seeing proof that I am attractive, despite what my mind is saying, makes me feel great about myself again,” she says.

● Enjoy being eye candy. Do you ever burn with self-consciousness when a guy checks you out— even if it’s your boyfriend trying to cop a stare as you make a dash sans clothes to the bathroom? Learn to love being ogled and your sex appeal—and confidence—will go through the roof.

● Step into his headspace. We assume that guys are just as hard on our bodies as we are, but that’s so not true. “Men admire the whole package,” says psychologist Sheenah Hankin, PhD, author of Complete Confidence. “They don’t pick you apart, and they don’t look longingly if they’re not liking what they see.” So when a babe is feasting his peepers on you in bed, remind yourself that he’s appreciating the scenery, not cataloging your “flaws.”

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1. Don’t overanalyze every word he says. Like for example: he tells you now – both of you are in your late 20′s or early 30′s – that if you were to gain a lot of weight in 30 years, he will leave you. Don’t let that mess up the next 30 years of your life.

2. Give him some space. Try to let him discover some things on his own. This way he won’t lose his mind if you are ever out of town.

3. Be independent. Pursue your own interests. Do something with your friends,or take up a hobby. Note: He can’t be your hobby.

4. Loose your needy and attention greedy attitude. As attention needy as men can be they still fear needy women. If you live his life, who is going to live yours?

5. Don’t look busy. Be busy. Ignoring his phone calls to teach him a lesson can be a real torture. Not being able to pick up the phone because you are in the middle of something very important is so much fun.

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Don’t we think we recognize a player when we see one? A promiscuous man who knows – oh so well – how to read between your lines, who looks deep into your eyes and your heart starts beating faster, a man you would want to have all to yourself…

Then, all of a sudden – right when the birds of love are rehearsing the happy love song in your head – his presence begins to fade away, his phone calls become rare, and you turn into a restless creature spending most of your time ordering greasy Chinese food, stuffing yourself with chocolate and ice cream. You blame yourself for ignoring the red flags, for listening to his sweet voice but not hearing his words, and for letting yourself fall in his arms. You question yourself what went wrong but you can’t find the answer. The answer is you got played.

There are three types of players: player for life aka collective player, trial player, and last but not least, lovesick player. Each type might have different motives, similar intentions but the outcome is identical – your feelings will get hurt.

Player for life aka collective player is the most dangerous species among male players. He is a player by choice. As a true womanizer he has many years of experience. Enchanting women comes natural to him. He can easily identify his next victim just by looking at her for a couple of minutes. He knows exactly what she wants him to be, and it brings him great pleasure to slurp in the role she wants him to play. He likes to collect women as precious exhibits. He loves the challenge. The more challenging you are the more persistent he will become, and the longer he might stick around. He constantly falls in and out of love, and believes that unfulfilled love can be romantic. Once you get over him you will recall your encounter with him as a beautiful and passionate moment of happiness.

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