Long lasting female friendships are hard to find these days. Why is it so difficult for women to remain friends for at least half of a life time? In my opinion, the most significant and common reason for a friendship failure is the absence of foundation. “We are friends because our boyfriends are friends” isn’t the most stable foundation for a friendship. You are more like temporary partners in crime with similar goals in mind. After giving the friendship dilemma some more thought and doing a little research, I came up with the following reasons.
Envy has destroyed many female friendships. Simply explained, you have something that she is lacking or missing. Whether it’s a designer purse you bought, a new man you met or a rewarding job you have, she is never happy for you. She always points out the negative in everything positive that happens to you. Read more >>
1. Don’t overanalyze every word his says. Like for example: he tells you now – both of you are in your late 20’s or early 30’s – that if you were to gain a lot of weight in 30 years, he will leave you. Don’t let that mess up the next 30 years of your life.
2. Give him some space. Try to let him discover some things on his own. This way he won’t lose his mind if you are ever out of town.
3. Be independent. Pursue your own interests. Do something with your friends,or take up a hobby. Note: He can’t be your hobby.
4. Loose your needy and attention greedy attitude. As attention needy as men can be they still fear needy women. Read more >>
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don’t hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
2. Sunday = sports. It’s like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
3. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
4. Crying is blackmail.
5. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!
6. “Yes” and “No” are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
7. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That’s what we do. Read more >>
I keep hearing and reading the same two words: Love sucks. What happened to love? It seems that we just can’t work it out. A man and a woman just can’t manage to be together anymore. I have been trying to figure out what could be the reasons for the failure of our relationships, and I came up with the following few:
1. We don’t need each other to “survive”. Back in the days, way before Myspace and Facebook and Twitter and, and, and, people needed each other to survive and/or to improve their status. Today, it seems that the other person is more a burden than an addition.
2. Selection, selection and selection. We have too many choices. If one guy/girl doesn’t do it, another guy/girl might. We don’t stick around to find out what the other person is really about. We just keep it moving to the next.
3. Internet and Transportation. You don’t know anyone who lives on your block, but Read more >>